bad habits

  • Letting them sleep in your bed.
  • No curfew.
  • Giving them a bottle whenever they squawk.
  • Letting them have too much pocket money.
  • Being lazy with rules.
  • Accepting bad manners.
  • Making requests regarding class placement.
  • Acting like a friend instead of a parent.

Comments

Jennifer said…
I am guilty of the first one, but I do my best to put her back in her own bed if I'm still awake

I know... NO buts!
Kim said…
I'm ticking all of those. Except the first one, which I have relaxed on. But the last two? I ticked about eleventy gagillion times each.

An Australian demographer/social commentator, Hugh Mackay, has coined the phrase 'helicopter parenting' to refer to those parents, often of only one child, who hover over their child, requesting particular teachers, coming up to the school if the child doesn't get an A grade for the assignment they did for them and so on and so forth. Isn't it good. Helicopter parents.
Kim: There are helicopter parents and then there are tank parents: The one who are down on the ground with their kids, dealing with stuff. I'd have to say I'm guilty of both.

Bb: As for the third item on your list, what are you giving your boys bottles of these days? :-)
Stephanie said…
noted.

thank you.

:)
BOSSY said…
Yup. That about does it.
Who She She said…
Guilty on the first one and still paying for it. How about resolving their conflicts for them? And not expecting them to accept responsibility when they screw up? I try really hard not to do those things.
MsCellania said…
I will take the liberty of adding one:
Making them suffer the consequences of their choices.
alice c said…
I try so hard not to analyse my parenting. It is too depressing. So long as they notice when I am in the room and make me laugh once a day and do not leave the table before the end of the meal I think I am doing just fine.

As for being a friend instead of a parent - that is what I aspire to - if you have achieved it already you are a ROLE MODEL.
Melene said…
We live and learn don't we.....
I am sure that your list of the things you feel good about having done as a parent will be MUCH longer.
paola said…
Those are MY rules. How did you get them???????
Jeannie said…
We compromised on the "kids in our bed" by putting sleeping bags under our beds for them to sleep in if they wanted to be with us during the night. Sorority Girl still wants to come home and sleep in my bed when she is sick.

And the "helicopter parents" apparently still micromanage their kids lives when they go away to college. The ones who show up on campus at least once per week are called "Blackhawk Parents".
kmkat said…
I think that last one has a proper time: when the kid has become an adult. There is nothing worse -- well, there is, but I'm making a point here -- than the parent who can't recognize that the *kid* is now 40 years old and entitled to his/her own opinion and life. I aspire to be my kids' friend once they hit adulthood. Which the older one has. So far, so good...
blackbird said…
I do agree with kmkat -
but I think it might have to be at 40.
Katy said…
Can we have a post of good habits too? I'm filing these sorts of things away for when I need them later on. (filing in my head... not actually filing)
MsCellania said…
I'm past 50. My mom is a friend only when I'm in emotional or physical pain. Otherwise? She's still my mom - takes no bullshit and nudges me to 'clean up your room'! Oh, and "Is it REALLY necessary to have laundry trailing out into the hall by the laundry room?!"
Just like when I was 15.
And I react the same way. By keeping my smart-ass retorts to myself - most of the time.
catsteevens said…
Thank you. I, too, am "filing" this away. I need all the help I can get right now.